I love this picture.
And it wasn't a professional one taken by my lovely colleague nicky.
It was michelle jus snapping around.
I think it really shows our love and ample joy that day.
I am truly blessed to have this wonderful man in my life.
The thing about getting married....
For some strange reason,
I haven't been able to share it with anyone.
Other than Shanmei, I have no married frens to talk to about this.
And she is pregnant, so her experience is probably v different.
I love the fact that me and Terence are married. Really really do.
It makes me very very happy.
It's such a cliche but it really is the happiest thing of my life as yet.
A lot of my colleagues and single frens dismiss it or tease me about it.
But they are missing out big-time.
I have never been so happy, or felt more fortunate and blessed.
And that day at the ROM ... that was the single happiest day of my life.
The last time I remember being so joyful n purely happy was the day I graduated fr UQ.
But this beats that hands-down. No contest at all.
I was jus literally floating. The day just floated by.
And even now I am still walking ard with that stupid blissful smile on my face.
After so many failed relationships, men, thinking, emotional high-dramas,
I have married the man of my dreams.
He makes me so happy, and his love is just incredible.
I never knew anyone can love me so much. Seriously.
And to be able to make him happy is my biggest joy.
(I wouldn't go to say its unconditional, cos i dun believe in romantic love being unconditional.
Maybe only parents and children can shower us with unconditional love.)
I was reading my old diary this afternoon.
I haven't written in it since last June.
And I wrote about how we got together in the beginning of April etc etc...
And there was this entry in May which startled me.
In there, I mentioned that Terence was already talking about marriage!
One month after we got together.
That was before he bought his Rex.
And he said he didn't know if he should commit to such an expensive car so early,
Cos he knew he wanted to marry me and that he'll probably need the money for our house.
That was jus so sweet.
And in November, he proposed.
Now, its said n done.
He did buy the Rex...ha.
Cos i encouraged him to.
I thought it sweet of him to think of marriage, but in May/june, I was nowhere near ready!
So i told him to go get his car first, nv thinking we'll be married less than a year later.
Life is really amazing.
It's like...I stumbled onto something good, and it just changed the direction of my whole life.
A long time ago, when i was in poly or something...
I always thought, and maybe wanted, to get married when i was 24.
But after the horrible break-up with Kevin,
I thought i was done in.
We'd discussed marriage... and after that, the whole idea jus turned me off
Not that i was affected...but my priorities jus changed after that.
I didn't want to focus on relationships and all that crap, i told myself.
I wanted to get a gd job, or do things gd for myself n my family/frens.
Guys ranked nowhere.
And even when i met terence, for the large part of our r/s,
it was clear he gave a lot more into this than I did.
Right till he proposed, I was content with the arrangement.
That he would be the giver, that he would be the one who loves me more.
After all, who was it that said...
As a woman, find a man who loves you more than u love him.
And your life will be good. I kinda believed in that for a while.
But i guess it should be equal billing now that we're husband n wife.
Maybe its just me....but sometimes, when people know I'm married,
They are not necessarily happy for me, or us.
Some of my colleagues are like that.
Some acquaintances too.
I think these are the people who are unhappily single.
Usually, as a matter of manners, I dun gush about terence or my marriage to others.
Not even frens. So very few people are aware how extremely happy i really am.
I hated it when other girls do that...yak about their partners non-stop nauseatingly.
And i would never do someth like that.
So when someone asked me... how i felt about the marriage,
I jus said something generic like ok. Quite happy or something.
And he said i'm underwhelmed.
And asked if its a "marriage of convenience"?
And until today, when everyone has sent their best wishes,
He has offered none.
There's this other fren, an ex-colleague.
Who used to talk abt all the hapless guys she's seeing and who was eager to get attached.
To somebody, anybody, it seems.
Everytime we comes out, she jus pours out her woes about how pathetic her love life was.
But i listened nonetheless, n thought she was really unlucky in love.
And i seldom talked abt terence in front of her, lest she feels worse.
As a matter of fact, I didn't even tell her abt my marriage.
She saw my diamond ring and asked me about it, so i said yea, we're getting married.
Since that day, I have never heard from her since.
Scary isn't it?
One person's bliss can be another's....
I dunno what that can be really.
But how can anyone be so selfish?
Anyway, it is cast in stone.
I am so very very thankful for my blissful union.
And more thankful that i have terence in my life, forever.
Lord, you have blessed me most richly and I am eternally thankful and aware of this great gift.
Yes,
I am gushing now.
Allow me, for I have been so reticient the whole year.
And this is my personal blog!
Perhaps this is why everyone thinks me and terence got married "so soon".
Cos i've never gushed about him, about us or even mentioned much abt our relationship.
It's like a happiness good and pure and solid.
All mine. All his.
God bless our union forever.
Live. Love.
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